Route Preparation Conference Doc_7
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Respect and be respected.
To love and be loved.
understand and be understood.
Allow freedom to be themselves and maintain the freedom to be ourselves.
... And find the energy to invest in the attention to this!
The nodes of the relationship.
The nodes of the relationship with parents and their children.
nodes of the family.
Why is not all spontaneous? Why
triggered conflicts or creating distance barriers?
Our conduct of love and family are born from spontaneous habits. Following behavior patterns that have little to do with what we want to be. Some escape by becoming aware. Others have been noticed and feel inadequate and discouraged by this.
TO CREATE A consensus about love and family we need to look at how we are together, comparing them with serenity. 'The dirty clothes are washed in the family' was the rule. So we could not know that everyone was experiencing exactly the same feelings, the same experiences.
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'There was a time when everyone lived in a state of deep confusion, fear and suffering. Everyone knew that the river lived a very powerful person, who could solve any problem, but nobody wanted to admit to himself or others having a problem. Then everyone went to the river and crawling secretly did not speak with anyone '.
so begins the story of Hyemeyohsts Storm, the traditions of Native North Americans. The river could be the life that flows within us? And be there in a group of extraordinary consciousness, that if we had the courage to seek it, would lead us to a dramatic change?
The common reality that flows in us is that the loving relationships we build it from scratch out family of origin, inevitably reflect the patterns that we have experienced with their parents and siblings.
In his will that the Congress [I, the person looking for myself. The different ways in which I can project myself in love relationships - published in the blog in speakers'] Julian Guerra, a psychiatrist and psychotherapist, says that "The person must be able to harmonize its parts unconscious and conscious. In his less conscious there are situations related to what mom and dad sent him, sometimes mixed in the shade. Above are the qualities (those of the soul).
The person must acquire clear vision of how this is done. If it succeeds common shares to supplement the shadow of his parents, can develop a conscious way to deal with the partner and children. When the pair should not ally ourselves to the level of meaning, that the alliance should take place here at the top. If we are in a process of evolution of the soul, then we meet a couple who knows how to generate love and completeness. But now most of the time the couple alleiamo still there in the complex. If you had a strict father, a wife looking severe, if you had a mother who abandoned you, the imprinting is the abandonment. This is intimately
to establish a complicity on the planes of consciousness.
Compared to the existence of imprinting is there to say that you can not heal the imprinting, because the mind is a computer that can not erase.
What we have received in memory, but WE CAN MAKE NEW MEMORIES.
The task is to create the pair NEW RULES 'REPORT through a new relationship. "
In the light of Julian's War, we can also make a step further. When we open ourselves to shared comparison, we find that the models that gave us the imprinting of how love changes are minimal MATRICES common to us all.
arrays behaviors of love does not belong to us only as a generation. They come from afar, from DNA codes, in which we are shaped like waves of a common great ocean ...
there actually a single river, or ocean, made of models of love, which flows within us, where we travel, even if unconscious.
not all 'our stuff' or our parents. There is much more.
becoming aware of this, we begin to swim, learning how to make waves. If you see there of us immersed in a stormy sea, surrounded by many other people in need as we are, what would we do?
would effectively lose energy with feelings of guilt or inadequacy? O mulling over who made me end up here?
'O man, or woman of 2000. Come down from the tree, wake up! '.
It will be the song-rap that will take us to the conference, playfully taking note of a situation in which all amazing we are in our ordinary consciousness than the experience of love.
'You got
said that love is a plant that dies if the baths'.
So far there is. But there is something on which to warn us.
'T'han He must be said that the water of the nearby,
t'han must be said that from his garden ...'.
What do you think? There is something to be ineffective in a matrix of love like this? Rationally we
anche capire che ‘non deve’ essere così, perché impostando l’amore in questo modo tra gli umani qualche volta può anche non funzionare.
Eppure chi di noi onestamente può negare che la percezione immediata che abbiamo dell’amore è di DARE IL NOSTRO AMORE A QUALCUNO , oppure DI ESSERE AMATI DA QUALCUNO?
Non diamo il nostro consenso a riflessioni filosofiche o spirituali elevate. Chi si è ripetutamente recato ‘al fiume ’ della vita in noi, sa, perché l’ha sperimentato, che non cambiano di fatto il vissuto inconscio.
Tra gli animali è abbastanza scontata la reciprocità. Tra gli umani sembra per lo più che lo schema si attivi invece al contrario. Quasi sempre we give our energy, all of us, mostly those who do not give us anything in return. Against anyone who gives us so much ... let's assume that we will always be loved, then do not worry, we do not need to show gratitude and love.
E 'common experience of the matrix of love and desire the love of ... who does not give us love! The rule seems to be that love must be won, won!
Why is it so?
How can we get away? How can we work differently
love and family?
Dr. Chiara Sozzi
relations Family Therapist
RELATED POST:
- The tree to bloom again - Published in the speakers'
- person I'm looking for myself. The different ways in which I can project myself in love relationships. Dr. Julian Guerra, MD, Psychotherapist. Specialist in psychiatry and medical psychology. - Published in the speakers'
- The song of love turned upside down. Dr. Chiara Sozzi, Therapist of family relationships - Published in the speakers'
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